Sylvia Mackey and How to Care for a Dementia Patient

Sylvia Mackey
In last week’s post, I talked about attending the 23rd Annual Caregiver Conference — Shedding Light on Dementia Care. The program closed with inspirational speaker, Sylvia Mackey, wife of John Mackey, former football player for the Baltimore Colts, who has frontotemporal dementia (FTD) something common to many football players. She shared her thoughts on how to care for a dementia patient.
According to the Mayo Clinic, frontotemporal dementia (frontotemporal lobar degeneration) is an umbrella term for a diverse group of uncommon disorders that primarily affect the frontal and temporal lobes of the brain — the areas generally associated with personality, behavior and language.
Frontotemporal dementia is often misdiagnosed as a psychiatric problem or as Alzheimer’s disease. But frontotemporal dementia tends to occur at a younger age than does Alzheimer’s disease, typically between the ages of 40 and 70. John Mackey was diagnosed at 60.
Before putting her husband in an assisted living facility, Sylvia was his primary caretaker. They were living in California, but they moved back to the Baltimore area because he was most familiar with that area. She had several examples of using the NFL to convince her husband to do certain things like take a shower. “The NFL commissioner is coming so you need to take a shower” and he would comply.
She had several suggestions to help the caretakers in the audience.
- Learn to laugh; it has no side effects. She recommended Finding Meaning with Charles.
- Use creativity to solve new challenges.
- Focus on one positive thing when in a challenge.
- Reflect on special moments.
Sylvia showed us an unconditional love for her husband and through laughter and tears was an inspiration to all of us. To read more about the couple, click here.
This being the week of Thanksgiving in the United States, I am grateful to all of you for pausing to read my blog. I wish all of you a very safe and Happy Thanksgiving!



